You are not a victim of fate or circumstances.
Lessons will be repeated until learned.
In my psychotherapy practice, people often present with superficial problems, as if to distract from the deeper issues. I can see it in their faces – the way they avoid eye contact. I wouldn’t even say it’s a conscious defense- mechanism. So I ask the deeper questions: “Why? What would that give you?”
The answers often surprise my clients.
“Well… I want my family to respect me”. .. And what do you imagine that would give you? “Validation”. And what would that give you? … “A sense that my life is worth something.”
That way we are getting somewhere – the underlying, often unknown, motives that drive their actions.
By making it conscious, we then have choices – Choices about the authenticity of the goal; the strategies employed that haven’t worked, and an opportunity to re-strategize to make the goal achievable.
“Life doesn’t happen to you – it happens for you” ~ Jim Carey
Love and caring will always lead the way – fear gets in the way of becoming what people most desire. If I can help a person realize this, I can help them create the life they were meant to have – one with passion, with exuberance, one that feels vital and real!
Helping people to NOT suffer has become my obsession. I know it’s possible. That’s why I love my work.