STOP trying to change yourself in order to please others!
Being Sensitive — Being Aware
Society has tipped too far to the left.
1. Political Correctness has created a monster of hatred between people. Remember the good ol’ days 1960-80? We were only required to tell someone if we felt offended. There would be a teaching moment, then we’d go on with our conversation. (Because we believed in free speech). It didn’t have to become “my way is superior to yours.
2. Judgements about people you don’t agree with? Different view points are the mother’s of creation. I’ve noticed the violence when people believe they are superior to another.
3. ESP EXPECTATIONS and Awareness of how we might affect others with our words – Should we know how we affect others? And then when someone fails, it’s okay to ridicule and despise, simply because we think we are superior in our opinions. Isn’t obvious that this is an act of war? Ironic, right?
Yet, if you’ve been on the planet long enough, we know that the “Pendulum Swings” – this is Beautiful because the pendulum will always seek balance.
I’ve noticed that our issues, causes, and sensitivities change from decade to decade; from month to month; from bad day to good day.
If I say something on Wednesday, 2020, and you feel I was inappropriate, then I say it again 2023 and you have zero reaction —- what changed?
Is it any wonder that people are becoming increasingly diagnosed with “social anxiety”?
I recall when I made a conscious decision to stop trying to change myself in order to please others —- Because it was strangling me. I sometimes felt paralyzed. I was exhausted. Not being me was not working. For me at least, it was a lost cause — I always leaked out.
And the virus grew – I didn’t want anyone to have the “wrong impression” of me.
BE HAPPIER.
BE SMARTER.
BE FUNNER.
Be MORE LIKE-ABLE.
When I realized I had become a big ball of self-consciousness and paranoia, and that I was exhausted in every social situation, I went the other way: to Embrace myself; Despite my faults, I wanted to Be as Self-Aware as I could and Open to Feedback. I wanted to interact without a story – Yours or mine. I wanted to be me — despite your judgements.
BTW- I’ll admit, hardly anyone signed up with me about this new plan. (Except for my clients – they paid me to help them get clarity).
I know, however, that I can breathe deeper, sleep better, and feel more like embracing a new day. I know that stifling myself was toxic to me.
Asking me to change is like asking me to die. DO YOU WANT ME TO DIE?