“Relationship is a mirror, and the purer the love is, the better the mirror. But the higher love needs that you should be open. The higher love needs you to be vulnerable. You have to drop your armor. You have not to be constantly on guard. You have to drop the calculating mind. You have to risk.
The reflection that you will find in the other of your own self may be ugly. But if you avoid the mirror you are not going to become beautiful. By avoiding the situation you are not going to grow either. The challenge has to be taken.
And then there are problems, problems which are meaningless. There are problems which are creative because they lead you to higher awareness. There are problems which lead you nowhere; they simply keep you tethered, they simply keep you in your old mess.
Love is the only real thing worth doing. All else is secondary. If it helps love, it is good. All else is just a means, love is the end. So whatsoever the pain, go into love.
Love is the greatest Zen koan.
It is painful, but don’t avoid it. If you avoid it you have avoided the greatest opportunity to grow. Go into it, suffer love, because through the suffering comes great ecstasy. Yes, there is agony, but out of the agony, ecstasy is born.
Yes, you will have to die as an ego, but if you can die as an ego, you will be born as a Buddha. And love will give you the first tongue-tip-taste of Tao, of Sufism, of Zen. Love will give you the first proof that God is, that life is not meaningless.”
Adapted from the article @ http://theunboundedspirit.com/why-love-is-painful/