How do you let go of attachments? Don’t even try. Effort creates attachment. Rather, attachment to things drops away by itself when you no longer seek to find yourself in them.” ~ Eckhart Tolle.
1. The C- concept
When you recognize a quality in the other that was abandoned in yourself, it creates a longing – like a phantom limb. You become mesmerised. When you are attracted to a person, it’s often your “idea” of that person that creates the draw.
I call it you, but in truth,it is my own longing for my lost-self.
In order to survive our first relationships, we learn to dis-own parts of ourselves that others saw as undesirable. We even forgot it was ever a part of our true nature.
My first clear experience of this was when I met a beautiful woman who was crazy-funny! ..”I wish I…
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